Think of a time when someone in a position of authority set a high goal for you. Perhaps a coach expected you to be the team's top scorer, or a parent expected you to get straight A's. How did you respond to these expectations? were you motivated to work harder?
Discuss why might parents have higher expectations of their children?
Well, both examples the book gave me (coach and parent) has happened to me before, except my coach expected me to get the most medals (since it's swimming not some sports where you score). I really, really hate high expectations. I believe that the higher the expectations are, the worse the result will be. It's always been like that for me. Whenever there are high standards set for me, the worse I do. I think I get way to nervous because I really want to rise up to the challenge and prove to that person that I can do whatever he/she expects of me. However, that just results in me trying too hard and screwing up some way or another. In that swimming competition, I only remembered to swim as fast as I can, but my strokes and coordination was all wrong. I really hate it, so whenever something like that happens, I just tell myself to do my best and hope for the best. That works much more effectively for me compared to high expectations. I also believe that threats and punishments work better than expectations, because fear is a much more effective motivation for humans. I think parents often have higher expectations of their children because they believe their children are special (that what all parents think apparently) and that they can do anything and they're superior to all other kids. They also want their children to be the best and shine, I suppose. But that is a lot of pressure for their kids to take, so I would suggest the parents to not set standards that are unreachable rather than motivational and feasible.
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